Tips for Lupus Patient Caregivers

Caring for a loved one who has a chronic illness can be an overwhelming and stressful experience.  When a loved one has lupus or any chronic disease, family members and close friends find themselves taking on the role of caregiver.  Sometimes this role is one of choice, sometimes it is one of necessity.  Either way, it is an important role that can be beneficial and rewarding for both the patient and the caregiver.  However, caregivers must remember that they must take care of their own needs, as well as provide assistance for the needs of those for whom they are caring.  There are a variety of tips that may alleviate the stress of caregiving.

Care of the Caregiver

One of the most important tips for caregivers to keep in mind is that they cannot neglect their own health and wellness needs.  Many people who find themselves in caregiver roles don’t take care of themselves.  However, when a caregiver neglects his or her own health or well-being, then the caregiver’s ability to provide optimal care for their loved one is compromised.  Caregivers who don’t take care of themselves can become ill or resentful of the patient.  Caregivers must strive for balance in their own lives, as well as the lives of those in their care.  There is a tendency for chronic disease to become a pervasive presence in a household.  But life cannot be about the disease.  For the sake of everyone in the household, there must be balance.  When the disease becomes the center of the household, everyone will suffer.

Caregivers sometimes feel guilty when they take care of themselves, when in fact, setting an example for a healthy lifestyle is one of the most important things caregivers can do for their loved ones who have lupus.  People learn from example.  A major component of any lupus treatment program is to follow a healthy lifestyle that includes moderate exercise, a healthy diet, sufficient rest, and stress reduction.  One of the tips for caregivers that will make a positive impact on personal well being is to join the lupus patient in the healthy lifestyle component of the treatment program.  By doing so, caregivers provide support for the patient, and also experience benefits to their own health and well being.

Educate Yourself About the Disease 

Seeking education about lupus another of the many tips for caregivers.  It is difficult to provide care for someone who has a chronic disease without having a thorough understanding of the disease.  By becoming knowledgeable about lupus, caregivers will best be able to provide assistance to their loved ones.  Caregivers should seek information about how the disease works, how it can impact the patient, patient limitations, information about treatment programs, and details about warning signs that a lupus flare may be approaching.  Helping the patient identify the potential onset of a flare is one of the most beneficial things caregivers can do.  For example, by knowing that joint swelling is a sign that a flare may be approaching, caregivers can be diligent in watching for the onset of swelling, and may notice the symptom before the patient notices it. 

Find an Outside Interest

Since caring for a chronically ill person can be a very isolating experience, one of the most important tips for caregivers is to find an outlet for themselves.  If caregivers aren’t able to interact with other people in similar situations, they often feel very alone and underappreciated.  Such feelings can lead to bitterness, frustration, and even resentment for the patient.  Caregivers need an outlet, and they need their own support network.  Everyone has interpersonal needs that must be met. 

Join a Support Group

A useful tip for caregivers is to get involved with a support group for lupus patient caregivers.  There may be a support group specific to caregivers of lupus patients in your area, or there may be a general support group for caregivers who are responsible for all types of chronically ill patients.  Having contact with other people who are familiar with the struggle of providing care for a chronically ill patient can be an invaluable outlet for caregivers.  Either way, becoming involved in a support group for caregivers can be an excellent way to minimize feelings of isolation and learn from others in similar situations. 

Written By Charlotte Gerber, 2007